Monday, December 6, 2010

Warmth of the Season

With the holidays approaching, I sometimes get so caught up in the hustle and bustle that I forget to stop and appreciate all the beauty that is part of this season.  My wonderful home, family and friends are gifts that light up my day, every day, not just during the holidays.

I now have a literary agent who will help me find a home for my book.  My dream, her passion and our vision to bring this story to others, I hope will be the perfect partnership.

Today I received a special and unexpected gift.  My wonderful nephew sent me a message that made me cry, after he read the first chapter of Two Spirits, One Heart. He is 17, but his words were filled with the wisdom and love of someone so much older.  He touched my heart like no one else.

Please enjoy the tree that sits in the corner of my living room.  May it remind you to stop and see the beauty that is all around us.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Being an author is so exciting . . .  like riding a roller coaster.  I receive a request from an agent to see my book proposal one day (woohoo) and then the next day open a letter saying that an agent wasn't engaged enough with my writing to represent my book (thud . . the sound of my heart dropping to the ground).  I click on an email from an agent who says my book is impressive and moving (yeah), then he continues to say he's not the right agent for Two Spirits, One Heart. (sigh).

But I know if I listen to my heart and stay humble, all of these experiences make me a better writer. Taking every piece of feedback in each rejection letter my editor & I re-write chapters daily while keeping the integrity of my story intact.  The results are amazing.  I no longer tell a story, but ask you to walk with me through my days and nights.

I thank every agent who has taken the time to let me know why my writing did not grab them and pull them into my world.  And for those interested in reading my new chapter, please click here.  Let me know what you think.

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Back from the Writer's Conference and I returned feeling more knowledgeable and successful.  Received valuable feedback on my book from an editorial director and the two agents I met with, requested copies of my book proposal. With all the changes in the publishing industry, a writer today has more options than ever before.  I learned so much but realized what a complex and lengthy process it is to be an author.  Publishers are booking slots for 2012 publications.  And I thought I could get Two Spirits, One Heart out in a few months.  How naive is that?

I met with one agent already who is interested in representing me but graciously gave me a few weeks to figure out how I want to proceed.  She even suggested that I send out a few query letters to other agents.  I love Dana's heart!!

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

I will be attending the Southern California Writer's Conference on Friday, meeting two literary agents and one editorial director.  They will be giving me feedback on Two Spirits One Heart.  It was less than six months ago that I had lunch with my editor in Dana Point and first shared the idea of this memoir with him.  Now, I am taking several chapters to one of the better conferences in the country for first-book authors. 

Looking forward to it, but a little nervous. . . . actually VERY NERVOUS.  Have no idea what to expect and hearing criticism about my book is a bit terrifying.  Tell you how everything comes out.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Highlights from my interview with Bob Yehling of Word Journeys

Word Journeys

Q.  What fed your decision to write Two Spirits, One Heart?

A.  I wanted parents to know that when our children come out, we as parents are faced with fear on so many levels . . . .  I wanted adults and youth to see two people struggle through their fears, but ask questions, share their feelings and listen to each other to move from fear into understanding.  Our travels took us to uncomfortable and scary places.  Read More...

Q.  You grew up with truly girlish tastes and preferences – dolls, tea parties, boys, etc. What were some of the toughest adjustments for you when you realized Ashley did not like what most of the other girls liked?

A.  The toughest adjustments were letting go of my image that I had a daughter.  I loved my daughter, her charm, her animation and our times together sharing mother and daughter things, like going to tea.   Where would we connect, if she was a boy?  Read More...

Q.  When Aiden became involved with the transgender community, after being involved with the lesbian community, how much knowledge did you have of these issues?

A.  Aiden’s involvement in the transgender community seemed to trigger more activism in me.  My vision to open LGBT friendly high school diploma programs entered my mind one day and became a cause that stayed in my heart .  We are currently running a satellite program LifeWorks at the LA Gay & Lesbian Center and are in talks with three other Gay and Lesbian Centers to determine if other satellite programs can be opened up.  I do this work for all the Aiden’s in the world.  I found my life purpose.  Read More...

Saturday, September 18, 2010


I'm so excited to be working on my book, Two Spirits One Heart, with my awesome son Aiden.  How many mothers get to spend time with their son, asking very personal questions and hearing intimate thoughts and feelings about their experiences?  Being the mother of a transgender child has been the most amazing journey...Marching for equality with over 100,000 people down Pennsylvania Ave., experiencing pride festivals in Long Beach, Palm Springs and San Francisco, flying with Aiden to Dallas and watching with tears streaming down my face as he accepts a national youth leadership award in front of close to a thousand people. I'll keep you posted on how the book writing progresses.