Thursday, September 30, 2010

Back from the Writer's Conference and I returned feeling more knowledgeable and successful.  Received valuable feedback on my book from an editorial director and the two agents I met with, requested copies of my book proposal. With all the changes in the publishing industry, a writer today has more options than ever before.  I learned so much but realized what a complex and lengthy process it is to be an author.  Publishers are booking slots for 2012 publications.  And I thought I could get Two Spirits, One Heart out in a few months.  How naive is that?

I met with one agent already who is interested in representing me but graciously gave me a few weeks to figure out how I want to proceed.  She even suggested that I send out a few query letters to other agents.  I love Dana's heart!!

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

I will be attending the Southern California Writer's Conference on Friday, meeting two literary agents and one editorial director.  They will be giving me feedback on Two Spirits One Heart.  It was less than six months ago that I had lunch with my editor in Dana Point and first shared the idea of this memoir with him.  Now, I am taking several chapters to one of the better conferences in the country for first-book authors. 

Looking forward to it, but a little nervous. . . . actually VERY NERVOUS.  Have no idea what to expect and hearing criticism about my book is a bit terrifying.  Tell you how everything comes out.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Highlights from my interview with Bob Yehling of Word Journeys

Word Journeys

Q.  What fed your decision to write Two Spirits, One Heart?

A.  I wanted parents to know that when our children come out, we as parents are faced with fear on so many levels . . . .  I wanted adults and youth to see two people struggle through their fears, but ask questions, share their feelings and listen to each other to move from fear into understanding.  Our travels took us to uncomfortable and scary places.  Read More...

Q.  You grew up with truly girlish tastes and preferences – dolls, tea parties, boys, etc. What were some of the toughest adjustments for you when you realized Ashley did not like what most of the other girls liked?

A.  The toughest adjustments were letting go of my image that I had a daughter.  I loved my daughter, her charm, her animation and our times together sharing mother and daughter things, like going to tea.   Where would we connect, if she was a boy?  Read More...

Q.  When Aiden became involved with the transgender community, after being involved with the lesbian community, how much knowledge did you have of these issues?

A.  Aiden’s involvement in the transgender community seemed to trigger more activism in me.  My vision to open LGBT friendly high school diploma programs entered my mind one day and became a cause that stayed in my heart .  We are currently running a satellite program LifeWorks at the LA Gay & Lesbian Center and are in talks with three other Gay and Lesbian Centers to determine if other satellite programs can be opened up.  I do this work for all the Aiden’s in the world.  I found my life purpose.  Read More...

Saturday, September 18, 2010


I'm so excited to be working on my book, Two Spirits One Heart, with my awesome son Aiden.  How many mothers get to spend time with their son, asking very personal questions and hearing intimate thoughts and feelings about their experiences?  Being the mother of a transgender child has been the most amazing journey...Marching for equality with over 100,000 people down Pennsylvania Ave., experiencing pride festivals in Long Beach, Palm Springs and San Francisco, flying with Aiden to Dallas and watching with tears streaming down my face as he accepts a national youth leadership award in front of close to a thousand people. I'll keep you posted on how the book writing progresses.