Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Dedicated to Kind Hearts Everywhere

Marsha & Tad Wedding Day
When I was young, my wise mother told me "marry a man with a kind heart."  She continued to say that "as your husband grows older, possibly losing his hair and growing a bit out of shape, just like you" if he has a kind heart, this part of him will never change.  I followed my mother's advice and it has made all the difference in my life.

During the early years of our marriage, Tad & I were not always patient partners and good listeners.  We have gotten better over the years, but we have had to work hard. Communication has been the key.  For those of you who know Tad, talking is not his favorite pastime.  I, on the other hand, can chat for hours, analyzing and discussing a topic at length.  I have learned to talk less and he has learned to talk more.  We even have a special signal when he can't talk or listen one more minute . . . a simple wink means "I am at my limit."  Sometimes, I don't see the wink and then he has to wink and point to his eye.  

Marsha & Tad Christmas 2011
In the end, I have loved this man, because of his wonderful heart.  He has been my rock through transitioning as a mother of a lesbian daughter and then transgender son. And his heart has shared many unforgettable moments with me and both of our sons. Ironically a heart has no gender . . . it just is. So, one day I hope people will support the marriage between two hearts . . . then sexual orientation, gender identity, race or religion wouldn't matter.  This is a world I dream of for all . . . 

The Union of Two Hearts

1 comment:

  1. This brought tears to my eyes! So beautifully expressed.