written for Hyphen Magazine Issue 27
Four years ago, my 20-year old daughter fearfully looked across a table at me and said the words that would forever change my life: "I want to transition to be a boy."
The first 20 years of my daughter's life suddenly began to make sense: the toddler who pouted at wearing dresses and bows, the elementary school tomboy who only wore pants and T-shirts and the high school cutter who refused to go to school and was diagnosed with agoraphobia. She had struggled with her gender identity after coming out as a lesbian a few years earlier. She had talked with other female-to-male transgender individuals, and their stories had resonated with her . In my mind, a volley of questions grabbed center stage: What do you mean transition to be a boy? Is it even possible to change genders? How? I tried to remain calm on the outside, but my mind was racing. . . Read More